"Love suffers long, and is kind." (1 Corinthians 13:4a)"My God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:19)
Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider this challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.
If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration.
Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.
Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind, or tender--especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.
Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure or loved. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.
To be honest ,reading this made me go back to all my harlequin i read. Rugged man, bravado, and cowboy all the like! If I must think of it , well maybe it does someway apply to my marriage. He isn't verbal. He hates talking on the phone . At first it was weird , me the super verbalist of the entire world ending up with a man who barely says what he likes for supper. It has changed a bit.
As of recently, my hubby left home to go to war .Hard times.I got real jalous of my friends who had love letter , phone calls every day and gifts. But i prayed about it. I still only found peace evry couples days after a ohone call then it would start again.
When Hubby came home on vacation he said one simple thing, "stop beeing and idiot! I love you and you only.Always have ,always will. It just hurt to call home and remember I am so far away from my entire world. "
May I say ,me in my entire suckiness for everything harlqeuin related....I MELTED...
Then I understood . This IS my husband . Quiet but deep. So I can say I am lucky. That a man ,like him. is my husband.
"Babe, you are far and I get it! Love yous!"